Who you are when no one is looking is who you think you are.
When we project as a result of expectations or circumstances we are, in effect, responding to external factors that guide us.
In that context we are who others think we should be, or expect us to be, instead of who we think we really are or really want to be.
The better the alignment between our shadow self and the public persona we project, the tighter the definition of our innermost sense of self.
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